It’s easy for entire families to fall in the hole with the one person who is struggling at the time.
We need to pay close attention to young people when their world is closing in.
But while we have to gently lean in, listen deeply, find external supports and love hard there is one type of self and family care that gets overlooked when the atmosphere becomes serious and scary.
That is the necessity for fun, joy and lightness. Often it feels like we need permission to smile, dance or laugh when someone we love can’t. Well here it is. Here’s your permission and here’s why you’ll be doing it for everyone as well as yourself.
1. It’s an anchor so the family doesn’t lose who they are.
2. It reminds the struggling young person of how things were for them and how they will be again.
3. It models self care to everyone around.
4. It shows the young person that they’re okay. They’re not dark and heavy enough to bring everyone down. They are not a burden on others. It’s one less thing for them to worry about.
5. It demonstrates that the adults around them are strong and will hold space for them and be ready to support them when they themselves are ready.
6. Laughing releases endorphins, the body’s feel good chemicals. It reduces stress hormones. It’s scientifically proven to be contagious.
7. It reminds everyone, at a time that can be really overwhelming and all consuming, that they are more than their confusion and pain.
Wherever possible, while also leaning in to the struggle, make sure to have moments of laughter and light. Do whatever you can to find it, create it or be it. It’s allowed! It’s necessary and it’s good for everyone’s soul ❤️
The Village Northern Beaches
